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PARENTING IN RECOVERY

inrecovery — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 19:37:41 +0000

There is a cycle going on in this world, a never ending chain of events.
Some of us come from nice “normal” homes and seem to have lived a “charmed” life.
But even with all of the advantages fell into alcoholism and/or drug addiction.
Our respective “disease’s” know no boundaries and no matter where we come from or who we were raised by it can attack anyone at anytime in their lives.
As children many of our parents afflicted with the disease projected their issues upon us and as did their parents upon them.
Just like hatred and racism even obesity children learn what we teach them.
I dragged them through about a zillion moves,schools and bad choices in men.
I took them to parties and involved them in situations they never should have been a part of.
I hate it when I mention that I have really screwed up my kids and well meaning people will say “oh don’t beat yourself up” or
“It’s not your fault”
Ummmm….YES IT IS !
MY choices and MY behavior is what continued the chain of sickness that I brought with ME into THEIR lives…
I can not move forward if I do not accept responsibility for MY actions.

I myself abandoned my kids for the streets for three years in the last years of my bottom before I joined a fellowship program.
They heard a lot of awful things about their mother while I was out there and now I have to fight against those words and change their perspective of me.
As a recovering addict and parent of three I have decided that enough is enough and have aggressively attacked the spread of my illness in two out 3 of my children. My oldest I did not raise and she is married and happy. My other two are my crosses to bare…
Will I become a perfect parent?? By all means NO ! There is no such thing, but am I being pro-active in getting help for my children??
YOU BETCHA !
Now, I have a son whose birthday happens to be 4-20…and he is now 18. His father is no roll model and really there is no one for him to look up to as a positive male influence. With him I missed a window of opportunity and guide him as best I can with the tools I learned by working a program. But I still enable him so a sickness still prevails in our relationship.
My youngest daughter just turned 15 and is my “mini me” she has all the trait’s that I had at that age and it scares me to death to watch my old behaviors become hers.
This one I have more control over and can manipulate into some recovery situations that I can not with my son.
She has had no choice but to participate in family counseling and I have them come to my home. As unlikely as it would seem my son creeps into these sessions even though he does not have to. This tells me he does not really want to follow the same path as his father and I.
Today I lead by example and yes a bit of coercion.
I find reasons to be out with my daughter just before a meeting and tell her I have no choice but to take her with me. And she is generally cool with that.
I involve her in my service projects and look for every community resource available in my area to get her help.
At this very moment she is in the middle of the Everglades on an Outward Bound Expedition, in a canoe for 20 day’s with several other girls her age.
Just about the hardest thing I have done so far with one of my kids but tough love is just that tough love !
Today I am at a point in my recovery where it’s not all about me.
Today I have to do something about the wreckage I have caused in the lives of my children.
Today I will work on breaking the chain !

Simply_Sandra

1st Annual Rally for Recovery Deemed Huge Success

community — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 20:19:18 +0000

The 1st annual Rally for Recovery took place this past weekend (September 12, 2009) in Downtown Miami and it wasn’t only the 1st Rally for the good people at InTheRooms.com but it proved to be the premier Recovery Month event for all of South Florida.

The 1st Annual Rally for Recovery, which featured great food and music including Eric Burdon and The Animals, had 1200 people participate in the 5k walk across the MacArthur Causeway and over 2000 people visited the rally’s festival.

Although the 1st annual Rally for Recovery just ended, sponsors and vendors who participated are excited to return and participate in the 2nd annual Rally for Recovery which is already in the works. For more information about the Rally for Recovery, visit www.RallyforRecovery.org or visit www.InTheRooms.com.

InTheRooms.com – Rally For Recovery Fast Approaching

community — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 20:24:52 +0000

This is your last chance to be part of the first annual In The Rooms “Rally for Recovery” in Miami, Florida. Everything is set and this weekend will be the start of what InTheRooms.com hopes will become a long lasting tradition in the South Florida recovery community.

Sign up for the 2009 Rally for Recovery Here and secure your spot in a walk across the MacArthur Causeway and join ITR afterwards for a festival full of great food, great music and lots of fun. This year’s festival will feature Eric Burdon and the Animals, Richie Supa and many more.

Haven’t checked out In The Rooms yet? What are you waiting for? InTheRooms.com is the fastest growing social networking website on the web. At ITR, you’ll find a friendly and supportive community of people in recovery – including friends and family of people in recovery.

The In The Rooms “Rally for Recovery” happens:
September 12, 2009 – 7 am – 4 pm
Bicentennial Park – Downtown Miami, Florida

Rally For Recovery Surprise Guest – Ed Hardy Rumored be Attenting

Ron Kerronian — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 17:19:17 +0000

Save the Date September 12th, 2009 – Rally for Recovery. We’ll be celebrating National Recovery month with a Walk, a Festival, and closing the Day out with a Concert – Featuring Music sensation Richie Supa, who’ll be performing his PRISM award winning song “In The Rooms.” American Tatoo Icon Ed Hardy is rumored to be designing the T-shirts for the event as well – Don’t Miss Out. For More info visit: www.intherooms.com

A Day of Fun, Music, Dancing, and Recovery!

Hospitals – A Breeding Ground For Drug Addiction.

Ron Kerronian — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 14:20:48 +0000

There is a common perception among the public, that illegal drugs pose a bigger problem than drugs prescribed in a hospital. However, that’s not the reality…according to Dr. Ronald Lim, hospitals are the new breeding ground for drug misuse.

Many of the people who suffer from addiction, no longer need dealers. They can simply get high on drugs commonly found in their medicine cabinets. So widespread is this practice that Dr. Lim calls it “an epidemic.” According to the U.S. Department of Health Services “Prescription drug abuse has almost doubled from 2000 to 2007.”

This problem has recieved a much needed spot light, primarily because of priscription drug misuse in the recent deaths of Pop Legend Michael Jackson and high profile celeb Anna Nicole Smith.

There seems to be no end in sight for the many phshical and emotional disorders that prescription drugs now treat. Opioids and benzoiazepines if used properly will treat anxiety, dpression, insomnia, stree, panic attacks and even pain – If used incorrectly, they can lead to drug addiction.

Dr. Lim says that the public needs to change its’ perception about prescription drugs… many of which affect the mind, behaviour or mood much like street drugs. In fact, these priscription drugs can even be more addictive because most who become addicted never thought it would happen., after all, if their doctors prescribed it, how addictive could it be…

InTheRooms.com Allows Members to Bring the Best Parts of ITR to FaceBook

inrecovery — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 14:03:07 +0000

InTheRooms.com is the most comprehensive resource for global fellowships, local support groups and individuals dedicated to recovery. And now, InTheRooms.com Members can make their Social Networking lives much easier with the new InTheRooms.com FaceBook Application. The App, which has just been released, promises to bring all the best parts of InTheRooms.com to your FaceBook page.

The new InTheRooms.com FaceBook application will allow ITR members to add their recovery times onto their existing FaceBook profiles. In Addition the new InTheRooms FaceBook App. will let you invite friends from your Facebook account to join you In The Rooms.

About InTheRooms.com
As a social networking innovator, InTheRooms.com is designed specifically for people in recovery, people seeking help to find recovery, and family, friends and allies of the recovery community from around the world. The mantra of In The Rooms centers on the word H.I.T.C.H., an acronym for Help, Inform, Touch, Connect and Heal, which is also the mission of the site. With this guiding principle, along with supportive, caring members, InTheRooms.com has become the fastest growing online recovery community in just a few short months.

To learn more, visit www.InTheRooms.com.